How can sex not be a Big Deal?

Sex by far is the most beautiful god’s gift to mankind. 

Release is one thing but taking along the partner to that ultimate height of orgasm is what has made one best against just.

BUT IS SEX EVERYTHING?

An article I came across “We Indians Need To Be More Liberal About” stated “Sex as no big deal!” 
I read and re-read it number of times, just to reach at conclusion that points mentioned made sense but, title and certainly image used was pathetic. 

Sex by and large is important aspect for healthy relation / marriage. But is it everything under the sun once in relation / committed...??

"Physical incompatibility" can and does lead to breakups or divorce which are acceptable.

But, infidelity / want of having more than one partner leading to end of relation – is no good for anyone!

Sex may not be a big deal for one who screw-up things but, can have lifelong devastating effect on other person and families! 

Sex may not also be a big deal for those who indulge in relation for sex when on rebound - be it after Breakups or Divorce!  

Cause like a full grown tiger; once you taste the blood you want more and more!!

But, then men and women involved too are secretive about such relations for reasons better known to them. 

There two ways to look at it!

Right or Wrong?? 

"TO EACH HIS OWN!!"

But, Sex certainly is a Big Deal to save families or to start a family! 

WHAT SAY?? :-) 

Once an addict always an addict!!

Society by and large has referred addiction to physical and psychological dependence on a substance, such as alcohol or drugs.


Engaging in drugs or alcohol creates chemical changes in brain.. What most of us fail to understand;

Its the same with ”LOVE!”

Just like alcohol, like drugs “Being in Love” too creates  ENDORPHINS in brain. 

Which act as super natural sedative!

It generates ULTIMATE EUPHORIA and the QUEST for more and more release of endorphin continues…

  

Problem begins when – One goes high and dry! - "BE IT IN RELATION OR DUE TO FAILED MARRIAGE..." 

Then what remains if not drugs; is Infidelity, Smoking, Racing, Gaming, Gambling, Shopping, Eating, Internet, Pornography, 

The world may not see us as drug or alcohol addicts nonetheless here we are...

PRISONERS STANDING ON EITHER SIDE OF A CELL!

She was beyond... the realms of physical intimacy!!!

Sex, without a commitment was an easier proposition and yet he had refrained for a long time..  

But, destiny had something else in stored!!!

They say; things happen when you least expect them to happen!!!  

That was the day!! 

When good old friend walked in – little did anyone on the floor knew, she was about to be divorced!!! 

Little was he aware!!

He was good looking, he had a charm, but not once he took undue advantage of anyone's situation!!

After excessive smoking, drinking, racing, gaming, gambling and deliberately staying away from women...  

HERE SHE WAS ABOUT TO CHANGE HER OWN AND HIS LIFE FOREVER!!!

She was the one who took him to bed and since then he just dominated the air!

Yet for him:  

Her absence, her presence was everything.   

Not once he had thought of her for just sexual encounter!!!

Irrespective of age, social status and her maddening past..... He was madly in love with her...   

FOR HIM SHE WAS BEYOND REALMS OF PHYSICAL INTIMACY!!!

He still had his views crystal clear... Her past had just made her "decision making" completely wired!! In spite of a guilt.... 

She had learnt her lesson... UNFORTUNATELY AT HIS COST!!!

"One would never know..... Until one walks a mile in their shoes!!"

Right from the most insignificant thing like a traffic jam, to a break-up, from insolvency in a business to someone who fails to keep his/her job, from seeing someone lose their parents, to divorce to miscarriage to seeing children pass-away in front of you to mother of all pains - SEEING BETRAYAL IN FRIENDSHIP - more often than not we easily switch onto a console mode! 

Worst is when someone indicates to "Move On" 

The question is DO WE REALLY CARE?? 

The Answer could well be - YES! 

But honestly look from a closer range, you'll notice "WE SILENTLY LAUGH!" 

Not on them per say - 

We laugh and thank god for 

"WE NOT BEING IN THE SIMILAR DIRE STATE!" 

The truth is 

"One would never know what it's like until one walks a mile in their shoes!!" 

Stop fooling YOURSELF..........

" No one can play God!!!" 

But one can also be crazy for his / her Sack!!!

Yes!!!

Its not about smell of wet panties or smell of her shampooed hair or smell of her dupatta... But one also is fanatic / crazy about his/her own sack!!!!

The sack which carries memories..... I MEAN A LOT OF MEMORIES!!!

NEVER FORGET!!!!

It came to you after enormous search / wait...
It traveled  through different continents...
It carried your glasses, it carried all those text books,
It carried photos of your beloved God,
It carried your food / water,
It carried your laptop

In short it has and will carry things from lot and lot of PIN TO PIANO!!  

No matter how old you look.... no matter how good for nothing you become for rest.. you will always have that SPECIAL PLACE IN OUR LIFE.....

Sacks / Jackets / Pullovers / Shoes no matter what.......... YOU DRIVE US CRAZY!!!  

RAPIST Vs INDIAN CONSTITUTION!!!!

India being Federal Constitution power lies with State and Central Government..... but as far (forget Capital Punishment)  - CHECK on rape is concerned India / Indian State/(s) and Central Government has failed miserably to protect WOMEN!!!!

If murder destroys physical frame of victim...... Rapist degrades the SOUL of a helpless female...  

A Man by birth is an animal I MEAN BLOODY ANIMAL!!! But, either social upbringing or strict punishment / capital punishment is ONLY way to reduce crime....

Unfortunately after seeing such  gruesome act repeatedly in news one wonders -  NOT about symptoms but root cause....

I am firm believer of PROSTITUTION.... but certainly not in favour of Article 375 

Here we talk about Article 370 (Kashmir) and Article 377 for those CHUTS who belong to  LGBT

But is not HIGH TIME for GOVERNMENT of INDIA to make strict laws - may be follow ISLAMIC laws against such Rape crimes????? 

It is easy to write a blog / cover a story but difficult to see your girl /mother / wife or a girlfriend getting raped....

May the god protect unfortunates.....

Either follow Islamic laws or Legalese prostitution - Government of India.

The Difference that made the difference

For those who thought knew him, thought of him as drunken happy go lucky ass who enjoyed being with women. What they failed to realize was those gorgeous brilliant ones were damaged enough to go around with him.

He had a charm. In bed he just treated them with utter domination which every women fantasies at least once in her life. Inspite of dark side to his personality he was honest and a god fearing man which made him irresistible. 

But, he too had a weak-point and she knew it was her… 

For her he was a real gentleman, who considered her beautiful than just being sexy. 

He liked her, he loved her, he spoiled her but not once SINCE THEY MET HE MADE HER FELT AS IF SHE WAS IN COMPETITION...  

For him her absence, her presence meant everything. 

But destiny had something else in stored. 

He did every possible thing to bridge the gap – she was in love but scared to express and pointed out on flaws.

Only one of them was in relation the other was pretty much lost.

 

It was a basic difference that eventually made all the difference!